I really irritate people who don’t want to have a conversation with me, but want to tell me a whole lot of useless garbage. I let them talk, but don’t give those little conversational/social cues to let them know I’m listening. Nodding, saying “uh huh”, grunting assent, nothing. I’ll look them square in the eye as they are talking, but won’t give any acknowledgement that I either agree or disagree. This feedback is an important part of conversation, but I believe you have to earn it. It makes people very uncomfortable and they tend to wind down quickly. They only do that once, typically.
I believe that efficient use of the English language is important. I’m not perfect, but I try very hard to not fall into pitfalls and learn from my mistakes where I can.
My boss says these things over and over again in every conversation:
- blah blah blah
- and stuff like that
It just means that he doesn’t know how to end his thoughts or adequately describe what he is talking about. This makes for awkward moments where I have to ask him what he means or to expand on what he is trying to convey to me. I haven’t pointed it out to him yet because he has a lot of other things on his mind right now in his personal and professional life. I don’t think that this level of directed self-improvement would be a good idea at this time. Still, I hear it. It bugs me. I can live with it. For now.
Another cow-orker uses the same 4 sentence structures over and over all day long. He finds me hilarious, though. I don’t want to wreck that.
You have to pick your battles, or at least know when to sue for peace.
Alternately, knowing when to throw a carefully placed fuck into the conversation for maximum impact is a delicate balancing act. I find that expletives are most effective when they are unexpected and rare.