Things you wish you could say (everywhere)


#1809

I’m glad she’s been found. I hope her friend is found soon!


#1810

Unfortunately he’s not really her friend anymore. Baby daddy on again off again boyfriend. She came home covered in bruises. When he is found he’s being charged as an adult with assault (domestic violence) and kidnapping. My friend is actually her aunt but has physical custody of her, and they have to keep her away from certain family members. It’s getting worse by the day. At least she’s home. Next step is getting the boy locked up for a good long time. :thinking:


#1811

I can’t understand those types of relationships - the woman is being abused, but does not want to get away from the abuser. (The reverse is also possible - female on male violence).

I have absolutely no frame of reference for this sort of thing, and it saddens me to hear of such things :frowning: (and pisses me off too…)


#1812

She’s a kid. Both are under 18, so she really knows no better. They are working on her.

Sometimes then problem is not only physical but actually mental abuse. Probably most are like this with only some going physical. When you have been told repeatedly that then person loves you, which is lucky bc you have so many problems/issues/whatever that no one else will, but they can help you and they don’t mind bc they love you, eventually you believe it. Slowly they isolate you from people who would tell you otherwise. That way no one can help you see the truth. Also when they do bad things it is bc they love you and are trying to help you be better. It’s a long process…first they convince you it’s love, then that no one else does. So why leave? You won’t be loved. You won’t be believed (clearly you can seen that portion what with all the ruckus in the news). And in many cases you won’t be able to make it without them bc they love you so much you don’t have to work or they allow you to only work jobs that don’t allow you to increase your skills and worth, making sure you will be dependent on them forever.

And that, sir, is why many of us stay. But even once you’re out, it takes years to recover. Assuming you find the right help. And it’s hard. And painful. And sometimes you learn things about yourself you don’t want to admit. And often you feel foolish. Leaving is very very hard.


#1813

Thanks for that perspective.


#1814

If you have a five sentence request on the neighborhood Facebook site and three of those sentences are talking about not being ripped off, getting the work cheap, and not paying a lot for the service, I don’t think you are going to get a lot of responses.

I see this all the time out there, but this one was just bad. You’ve just painted yourself as someone no independent contractor wants to work with.

It always amazes me that people write crap like “Need reliable electrician”, “Need cheap carpenter”, oh, I was going to recommend my unreliable electrician friend who charges three times the going rate.


#1815

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