I have a quantum number of expected guests. Me and my wife will be there (barring accident, since it’s our house) but then there’s:
- Mother-in-law’s Boyfriend
- Mother-in-law’s maybe-sorta former housemate who has on the outs with MIL.
- Possibly $Wife’s stepbrother. MIL was trying to set him up with Housemate last year.
I’m resigned to quite possibly retreating to my basement for some or all of the evening. I’m getting really defensive as the BF is apparently very religious, but sees nothing wrong with cheating around on people, encouraging others to do the same, selling some semi-legal stuff (really, when we live in a state where apparently you could just get a permit and do it legally!), and some other issues.
So, basically: I’m fine if BF wants to say grace. But if you attack me for my lack of church attendance or similar I’m going to react badly. I’m faithful to my wife, don’t drink to excess, and while far from perfect I’m trying to deal with my own shit and let everyone else have the space and support to deal with their own.
I also don’t approve that they’re using some borderline excuses to get a turkey from a charity or something. I can afford a turkey. It’s not a big deal. We’ll feed people and not complain.
My ideal at this point in my life is to just host Thanksgiving for people that actually want to be there. I’d rather have a small casual dinner for friends that don’t have family to spend it with or whatever than some forced thing.
But there’s a definite chance I’ll be in the basement watching MST3k and painting minis or playing video games. The good thing is MIL and all have to work the next morning, so no one is staying late.
I apologize for my brief rant.